Chapter 2. Page 51 of 365.
Relationship Matters: The You Factor
In all relationships we have made, one will be different with the other. One thing they shared in common is you.
In the First Commandment, Jesus reminded us to love others the way you love yourself (Matt 12:28-34). We can’t say we love others when we don’t love ourselves first. Loving ourselves doesn’t mean being selfish, but to accept yourself wholly.
We all have our own baggages, but it doesn’t mean we are losing or lack of something. Don’t depend on others and say, ‘it is when I am with him/her/them, I feel whole, I feel complete(d).’
We should feel complete and comfort with ourselves before participating in any relationship. Don’t ever feel like you’re a half-full glass that is waiting for someone that is also half-full that when both of you meet, you become full. It would be their loss! For in order to make you full, they are now empty. Vice versa.
Jesus said you are the light of this world (Matt 5:13-16).
If we are incomplete without the presence of others, that would mean we are in dark places when we’re not with them, right?
NO. We are the light. No matter are there people with us or it is just ourselves, we shine.
Accept yourself. Know how much you worth. Value yourself. Love yourself. Be grateful.
Don’t see yourself as a half person that in your relationship you need others to complete each other, but stand as a whole and when you meet the other whole person, both of you are blessing those around you with your overflowing.
Don’t wait for others to shine, but shine because you are the light. And when you meet others, may your lights shine ever brighter.
Love yourself. Forgive yourself. Be true to yourself. How you treat yourself seta the standard how others will treat you.
A man who loves himself finds that there is no ego in him. It is by loving others without loving yourself, trying to love others, that the ego arises.
Loving yourself invites others to love you. Respecting yourself invites people to respect you.
It all starts with you.
If you don’t love yourself, you cannot love others. You will not be able to love others. If you have no compassion for yourself then you are not able of developing compassion for others.
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My home church celebrates February as the relationship month every year.
And this message is a preach shared by our Sr. Pastor Jeffrey Rachmat at the first week of the new month, combined by the preach at Singles Seminar. – View on Path.